Values are very important because all people are trying to teach you their values. All of them are mum and dad, friends,
school, government, and society in general is trying to direct you towards what they
understand as their values.
If you have
no idea what are your values are than you will be convinced to borrow other people values.
That hurts greatly.
I am going
to give you a test for you to do in your own time while you are alone to figure
it out.
Write it
down because you will need it:
1. It doesn’t matter much
2. It’s kind of important to me
3. It’s important to me
4. It is very important to me
5. It is vital to me
These
values can change throughout your life and it is ok if you change your mind later
on. It is important what you think is meaningful now.
For example,
when I was single it was easy to be a good friend but it wasn’t that easy to be
a good girlfriend.
So now put your preferred number on the lines bellow.
Being a
good friend__________
Being a
good boyfriend/girlfriend_________
Being a
good son/daughter___________
Being a
good brother/sister___________
Being a
good student__________
Being a
good employee___________
Being good
to myself__________
Being
active in my hobbies___________
Being creative________
Being
productive___________
Being a
good community member___________
Being a
good member of humankind____________
Being good
with the Earth (the environment, animal rights, etc.) _________
Being in
contact with my spirituality (whatever you want to call it) ___________
Being …. (insert
your ideas) _________
Do your actions show that this is something you
value?
Find
another colour pen and give it a second rating with this new scale bellow.
1. Totally
off track with this value
2. A bit
off track
3. Mostly
on track
4. On track
5. There
could be a photo of me in dictionary next to this value
How did you
feel when you gave yourself a different rating?
Were you
proud of yourself or dwelling on a bit of a shitty moment? Are you lying on the
values or underneath them?
What’s your
plan on getting on with the things that matter the most to you? You will say I
tricked you. If you are alone in your room then nobody knows it.
If we sit
at the bus station and we see a fellow saying that we should all go North
because North is the way to go to reach the top. What do we do?
After n year we go pass the same bus stop and see that same fellow saying that we
should go North to be achieved and successful. It is the way to happiness.
After two
years the guy is still there saying the same stuff. You stop and ask him about
it and recommends the perfect apps and books about North. Also, you ask him
about best things he’s seen when he went North but he replies: “I have never
been North. Too hard to get up there. The road is too bad, and I am waiting for
the government to fix the road so I can have an easy trip. Then he says
proudly: “BUT, I have never gone South.”
Do you take
this fella seriously? If it’s worth it, I, personally would travel over a bad road and jump
through couple fiery hoops to get to that promise land. Right?
Like
someone wise said:
Values are like compass directions. They’re
meaningless unless you move.
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